WOW, You must lead the charmed life.....if this is the worst thing to happen to you and your family....I'm sure the girls are just fine, you on the other hand - seek therapy.

I've had it happen to me the past 2 seasons. 2 seasons ago we finished dead last and that includes 3 games where we played down because the other team didn't have enough players. Never ran up the score. This year we finished second and that includes a game where I pulled my team off with 10 minutes left because the ref let the game get out of control of which I informed him of such as i tended to my 5th injured player. Same players, same coaches, same parents. Unfortunately it's a crock.

Knowing from experience:

1. Coaches will yell when their kid takes a hard tackle or is shoulder off the ball.
2. Parents especially soccer moms can be vicious on the sidelines looking to start confrontations with anyone that isn't part of their team.
3. Players will complain as long as the coach complains.
4. Any idiot that tells folks they lost due to the sloppy uniform does not know what they are saying.
5. Coaches that allow trainers to run hostile on the sidelines are stupid, trainers do not have a legit thing to say with the exception of speaking to their kids during the half. But since it is about money and the record they start yelling. Just because they played they think they know everything and the coach does nothing to shut them up.
6. Coaches hate to lose.

Those are some of the things I have seen over my years of coaching.

As a ref and coach, I can say I have never ever been given direction on what I should be grading on. I agree its a joke

You are a liar and should be ashamed of yourself. Every mandatory meeting for referees this is spoken to all referees. As for the coaches, they are told at the orientation meeting only the first time they go.

Maybe you should go the the ref meetings and pay attention. It is discussed every season.

You are seriously failing on two fronts and need to look in the mirror. I wholeheartedly agree with the previous comments. If you don't know what to do as a Coach to instill good sporting behavior how can you give a yellow card to a player for UB? If you wear a referee badge and do not go to meetings, study the LOTG and ask questions then you are shortchanging the game. If you have not seen a good role model of a coach in your club or a referee in a game that does it right then you are missing the boat. But do not embarass yourself on this site by disparaging your fellow coaches and referees. Most if not all try to do it right. I coached one travel team for 8 years. We won a sportmanship patch and a few chevrons. Then we had a Coach that had to always act up. He never understood why we never won again. After Coaching I became a referee. If you can't Coach or be a good referee then maybe you should focus on just doing ONE of them right! Sounds corny but why don't you go by the following- "Any job big or small, do it right or not at all" Here's my RED CARD to you for irresponsible behavior!

So in your view, the game got out of control and you "informed" the ref. Really, no dissent there. And the parents, I'm sure they were quiet about it. For the record, parents cannot dispute any calls, make comments to the ref, or address them in any way. I'm sure none of that happened either. Those who do not get it probably never will, what a shame.

You missed the point completely, obviously you didn't "get it". With a game like this my team still finished 2nd in sportsmanship. Obviously we probably got a low grade for that game. The season before we finished last. 2 seasons before that we finished 2nd, the season before that first. And as I said, the season we finished last I had my team play down 3 games.

As for the game itself, after the 4th player on my team was injured I did "inform" the referee that if he didn't get the game under control I would pull my team off. His response was do what you have to do and then called a foul on a player on my team. Did I deserve a low score in that game? Yes, based on the way it is scored. 5 times I had to go out to tend to an injured player that game, less than that for the other games that season combined. My players aren't saints but they don't go head hunting or push players down from behind every time they were beat.