I really don't know what to do..I have had my daughter talk to the coach and yet repeatedly we hear comments attributed to the coach that are very negative. Just this week an alumnus of the school stopped into her office and she told her through the course of a conversation that she doesnt like my daughter. My D has played with numerous coaches, including internationally while living abroad, and was consistently chosen by these coaches as captain. her current premier coach adores her. The HS coach gave out awards at the banquet to every kid on varsity (even made up awards..like "funniest on the bench) except for my daughter. SHe had received all ocnference and the coach "lost" the medal somewhere she claims and never gave it to my kid. My D is the first one to pat a kid on her back or compliment them. She is intense and competitive..and sometimes that isnt appreciated. She has been told by the coach she isnt sporstmanlike bec/ she is bummed when they lose. (no tantrums..just a little down). her premier coach said her self-confidence has really changed this winter. Should she still stick with something to learn a life lesson? she wont be chosen captain if she cant even get offensive player of the year on the team despite being the highest scorer (goals and assists) for 2 years straight..so why torture her? I am really torn.

Hi I was wondering how important these college recruiting camps are because my son keeps getting invitations but they are quite expensive? He was invited to Future 250 and Collegiate Soccer Academy. Thank You

Both camps are related to a college but he hasnt contacted either

Larry and Boardlord I need your input.
My son is a junior and is being recruited by a few different colleges. Some of them have offered scholarship packages and are waiting for my son to respond with a verbal commitment (no deadline though). One of the coaches says once he proposes the scholarship package my son will have 30 days to accept or decline it. Is this common practice?

Truth be told, thirty days to decide is highly generous. Most packages are offered with a time limit that is shorter, typically measured in days or weeks. Typically, untimed awards are academic-based as opposed to athletic-based.

The reason for the time limit is actually quite simple. Each college coach will have a roster of potential recruits that he/she will want to bring to their program. The coach will move down that list, player by player, allocating funds that are available in accordance with NCAA Guidelines and based on already allocated upper classmen awards. If you child decides not to attend that school for any reason, thereby turning down the award, that money can be reallocated and the coach can move onto another potential recruit.

Just as BOTN Industries recommends college coaches to be honest when there is not true interest in a player, we also recommend that players that have eliminated a school from consideration while an athletic scholarship is on the table inform the head coach immediately. This will allow another student-athlete who is potentially waiting on an offer to receive some good news as a result of your decision.

Thanks for the input Boardlord. We are new to all of this as you can see. One of the coaches said he will wait for my son to decide until after the spring season, but now I'm thinking that might not be such a good idea since from what you're saying this coach could decide to spend the athletic money on another player. Is it better to commit earlier then? Also, do coaches sometimes raise their initial offer if they find out another coach/school has made an offer?