I hope your son is a senior. I was told by several coaches during unofficial visits that they would be further watching my child at certain tournaments but unfortunately they were not allowed to engage in conversation at the field. All they said they were allowed to do was say hello. In their senior year the coach can engage in conversation with both the player and parent.

But Good Luck to your son.

From today's (4/12) Newsday letters to the editor:

Author Alison Bernicker stressfully declares that choosing a college is "a decision that would affect me for the rest of my life." Sorry, but that's just not true for the vast majority of high school students.

Having taught high school for 35 years, and engaged in countless college conversations with students, many of whom I have stayed in touch with into their 30s and 40s, I've come to realize one important reality: Whether one chooses a state or private school, taking advantage of the opportunities offered at the college is a huge part of the formula for success.

Getting a 3.4 GPA at Hofstra, a 3.6 at Stony Brook, or a 3.1 at University of Maryland will ultimately have no effect on the rest of your life. Dozens of other life decisions play a larger role in the "rest of your life." Marital, financial, family and career decisions will likely be more important than the college you attend.

A student's success in college is derived primarily from the student himself, his work ethic and habits, his involvement in its programs and opportunities, and how much he puts into the four years. Do well wherever you go to college, learn good decision-making skills, and you're on the right track to have a very successful "rest of your life."

Marc Comerchero

Commack

The link: http://www.newsday.com/news/opinion/letters/ny-opltr1212637435apr10,0,6384719.story

how important are state teams. can you accomplish the same goal by going to showcases with your club team.

how important are state teams.

can you accomplish the same goal by going to showcases with your club team.

He's a sophomore. And they didn't speak at all other than by email. We didn't expect that. Our goal was to express interest and have the coach see him play. We accomplished our objectives and will be in a better position (I hope) to reach out again to this school (and others) at the fall showcases. At a minimum, it was good practice to see how the process works and my son learned what his job is in this process. Good luck to you and your player as well.